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on the verge of a breakdown


Are you disconnected from the activities and relationships that used to bring you joy?

Are you concerned that your well-being may on the verge of breakdown but you can’t slow down?

Do you feel fragmented? Like all the different parts of you don’t fit together anymore?

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Are you allowing your brain to run on Auto Pilot?

Pause at least once every day and notice a non-productive mental or emotional reaction you are having. One that is so habitual for you, that it seems like you have no choice about it. It just happens. By beginning to “see” it, you start the process of changing it or controlling it.

Time to cleanse the senses!

Find a day this week to sit quietly and enjoy a sunrise or sunset. Just settle in comfortably and let the “information” flow into your eyes without talking (out loud or inside). See if you can just be with it. This most precious practice of pratyhara, or sense control, is marvelously calming and rejuvenating. Yummy.

Just Breathe

This week re-focus on your pranayama breathing. If you need to become more consistent, commit to two minutes a day and pick a certain time to do it (before a meal is great for your digestion). If you are already doing regular breathwork, consider lengthening your sessions for 5 minutes a day. If you’re already doing 5 minutes a day, it might be a good time to schedule a private session and see how we can evolve your technique to give you even more benefits.

Personal Horror Movies

Yikes! Have you ever been caught up in the terrible and transfixing plot of a horror movie or thriller? It’s like you don’t want to look, but you can’t help peeking through your fingers. It’s yucky, but it’s also thrilling. You don’t want it to happen to you, but it’s kinda exciting to watch. And kinda addictive. Even though you can’t sleep that night.

Well, my friend, that’s what we’re doing with our own lives–we’re getting a thrill from something we don’t like. I’m talking about our suffering.

Let me explain a bit more…

The Yoga Sutras (classic ancient text on yoga which helps us break free from our suffering so we can live happy and fulfilled lives) explain how suffering comes in different flavors. For instance, there’s the flavor of attachment or grasping: hanging on too tightly to something we have, or wanting something that we don’t have (money, car, job, guy, weight loss, peace).

Then there’s the flavor of suffering that comes from aversion or hatred: wanting to avoid something or disliking something (poverty, humiliation, illness, the in-laws). There are other flavors, but these two suffice for now.

Through the practice of inner yoga, we begin to see more and more clearly what sufferings we have in our life, so we can reduce them and their causes. The ancient yogis experimented with various practices over a long time, and really refined the practices.

Now it gets weird, and your brain may want to shut off, but stay with me…

According to David Frawley (a great yoga and ayurveda teacher and writer that I took a course on Soma from) in his decades of working with thousands of students and patients, he’s discovered that most of us can give up things that we grasp for far more easily than we can give up the suffering we already have because of something we don’t want. In fact, at some deep level we are each grasping onto the suffering-that-we- know so hard, that it actually is like we are attracted to it.

Huh? What does that mean? Who in their right mind would want to hold on to their suffering? If you had the “option” of letting go of your fear of failure, you would, wouldn’t you? If you had the “option” of letting go of the scarring and suffering from past abuse, you would, wouldn’t you? And many of us are working and working at doing that. In fact, it might sound offensive to have someone say we want to suffer. (Hmmm…Or maybe being offended is part of the suffering you won’t let go of?)

But when you start becoming really, really aware of what’s going on through the practice of yoga, you can see (oh, the horror!) that you are actually going back into old patterns of suffering–that probably were natural to have at one point but aren’t really necessary now–because they are stimulating. You’ve gotten so used to (addicted to?) the thrill of the suffering (think horror movie thrill) that you don’t what to do or who to be without it. And so you keep picking at it–usually unconsciously.

Would an example help here?

Through my yoga practice and self-study, I’ve recognized that one of the biggest sufferings I have is uncertainty and indecisiveness. For example, when I was deciding 6 years ago about whether to open my wellness studio, I worked with a mentor and crunched the numbers. After about 30 days I had taken everything I reasonably could into account. And still I couldn’t decide whether I should open a studio or not. So I proceeded to crunch the numbers…for another 11 months!

And nothing really changed — the overall outlook stayed exactly the same. But, hey, I got to suffer with indecision for 11 extra months!   To feel stuck, and unsettled, and to keep wishing that I knew how everything would turn out (I’ve never been able to know the future).

That’s a major example, but I see the pattern of suffering about indecisiveness playing out in my life over and over again. I’m talking about on a daily basis, for decisions big and small. I can feel how my heart beats faster, my throat tightens up, my thoughts get frantic, I shut down a bit emotionally.

Once I had clarity about this, I started asking myself, what do I get from “having” to suffer in this way?  After some true soul-searching in meditation, I see that I really am getting a warped sort of “high” from this pattern. The stimulus of the suffering releases certain hormones and chemicals in my system that I’ve gotten very used to. And it feels very hard to get out of. It’s sneaky. I don’t do it on purpose.

So how do you proceed with something like this? The first step is the awareness of it. And then the acceptance of it while at the same time being willing to engage with it in a strategic way so that it eventually reduces or “burns up”. This is an approach of gratitude, compassion for self, and relentless awareness. Willingness to be with it without judgment. It’s very powerful.

And the rest of the story? Am I “clean” now? Uncertainty totally gone? No, of course not, I’m in process. And I’m human. Things have improved, it’s ongoing, and the seed of uncertainty still sprouts up in the right conditions.

But you know, I’m a lot more peaceful now, with uncertainty. It’s kind of like a little friend–“Oh, well hello, uncertainty! No need to sneak around. Welcome! Let’s have a little sit-down together, shall we?”

Now I invite you, if you’re ready, to start noticing what is a common theme to your personal suffering? And then please, don’t just hang out there with the awareness. Get thee to a qualified yoga teacher who can help you get out of the horror movie.

A final thought: This is not for wimps. Most people aren’t ready to take on this level of responsibility and self-work. But if you are one of them, then congratulations! Let the transformation begin!

Smooth Transitions

Are you sensing the transition between summer and fall, too? It’s not really quite here, but there are hints of it about: teachers going back to work, Halloween displays in stores (yes, really), the occasional cooler day.
I have taken a lot of note of transitions in my life the last couple of years. Even simple things, like the time between my morning yoga practice and when I go to the studio. I used to think of that time as the basic junk I just had to get through to get to the next good part or important part of my day: take a shower, get dressed, pack a lunch. And because I wanted to spend more time in the “good stuff”,  I would short-change the amount of time I gave myself to get ready for work, so it would feel all hectic and annoying.
Not anymore. Now I very consciously schedule a minimum of 45 minutes so I can gracefully and graciously make that transition. It has brought so much more calm and happiness into my life!
If you start looking around at all the “transition times” in your day, your week, your month and year, then you become super-aware of what a huge chunk of our time really is about transition. Driving to work…cooking dinner…waiting in line. Just to name a few.
How are you approaching that never-to-be-seen-again time? Are you cranky, worrying about the future, fuming over the past, tapping your foot with impatience? What if, instead, you cherished that time. Seriously. How would that feel?
Cherishing that “in-between” time might look like scheduling more time so you can avoid the frenetic feeling. Staying in the present moment, enjoying the feel of the shampoo bubbles dripping down your body instead of making a list in your head. Playing music you look forward to hearing in the car. Or smiling at the other people in the waiting room.
Now you think of a few ways to start to turn down the frantic and annoying and turn up the yummy in those oh-so-many transition times of your day. I recommend focusing in on one area that really annoys you right now. Then you can always expand the practice into other areas. 🙂
And if you need some help with this, give me a holler.

A Time to Revel

This week take the time each day to revel in summertime. Think about the things you wanted to do this summer and the things you love in general about summer, and then DO them and FEEL them very consciously.

Gratitude Practice that Pays Off!

Each morning as you awake, before getting out of bed, give thanks for 3 things. Big or small. Feel the gratitude inside you. This sets you up to receive more good stuff all day long.

Celebrate the Things YOU Love!

Take a moment this week to appreciate the uniqueness of summer.  Think about what one thing do you most want to do before the summer ends and schedule time for it.